Hey there, YouTube! Welcome to this video. My name is Kate Spring, and I’m a relationship and dating coach. Some of you may know me and some of you may not. If you don’t, now you do, and hopefully your life will be different after this video.
Alright, a lot of people have been contacting me to create some videos or articles on getting your ex back. So I thought I would deliver the goods in this video. Some of you might have already seen my more in depth video on how to get you ex back. But, today, I have a video solely devoted to texting your ex back. I’m going to outline a few text messages to send to your ex-girlfriend to win her back. So let’s get started.
Before we get started, if you have any questions, please leave them in the comments section below, and I’ll be sure to get back to you, personally, as soon as I can.
Okay, so first of all let’s cover some things to avoid when texting your ex. First, avoid texting her right after the breakup. Give her and yourself some room to breathe. Don’t blow up her phone with sappy messages saying how much you miss her or beg her to take you back! Avoid sending her mean messages telling her that you never loved her anyways or that she isn’t all that pretty and that you prefer your ex before her. This is just adding fuel to the fire and will make getting back together that much more difficult.
Avoid the how’s it going text. You know, “Hey, how have you been?” text. That’s a dull and forgettable message that she will probably skim over and one that warrants a one word answer. In order to get your ex back, you need to excite her again. You need to create that feeling that if she doesn’t hear from you soon, she will scream, if not cry!
The next thing to cover is when to text your ex and that is ideally after you have completed a one month period of no contact. The rule of absence.
What is the rule of absence? I’m glad you asked. I’ll briefly outline it for you. The rule of absence is to become absent in your ex’s life for a period of about a month or so where you have zero contact with your ex. That means no phone calls, no texting, no emailing, no sliding into her dms, no matching with her on Tinder, no liking her Instagram pictures, no watching her Snap Chat stories, no commenting on her Facebook pictures or connecting through Facebook messenger.
This is important because it gives your ex space to miss you and to heal from the breakup, and it also lets you get some clarity on the situation for yourself. You know that saying, “Absence makes the heart grow fonder.” The rule of absence allows your ex to romanticize your past relationship and have more positive, happier thoughts on the matter. Not ones of resentment or sorrow. This gives you each time to heal any wounds that your breakup caused.
It’s important to have a clear goal in mind and work towards that. Do not get side tracked or take short cuts! They will work against you and all your hard work. And your goal is not to talk to her for a month, which might drive her crazy, but, in the end, that will create an anticipation in her to want to hear from you.
The best time to start texting your ex back is after the no contact period when enough time has passed that your…