Hey guys, Kate Spring here, and I’m here to address something that is a real letdown for women in their relationships. And that is a lack of sexual tension. Sometimes, healthy tension can be one of those things missing in relationships and is like an on and off switch, but most of the time, it requires work.
Building sexual tension is like the growing hunger that makes a three-course meal so enjoyable, and the build-up to the main meal is the appetizer, and I’m going to share with you 4 ways to savour the entire meal.
Just a reminder, make sure if you have any questions that you leave them in the comments below and I’ll be sure to get back to you! Also, If you have any suggestions for other men about ways to build sexual tension with a woman, please leave them in the comments below as well.
Ok, women need a gradual build up; they need to be teased. The art of teasing is giving a little and then taking it away, always leaving them wanting more. It is has been scientifically proven that women and men treat sex differently and the way we get turned on varies in time! So remember, women need a little extra in the tension department. We too want to want it. And I guarantee, once you try these tactics, you won’t go back.
One of the most important ways to build tension with a woman is by having a connection with her mind. If it’s not an undeniable sexual chemistry at first, then no fear, because we can help to create it with these few steps. By connecting with a woman on an intellectual as well as emotional level, we will make her feel good about you, which is our goal!
This may seem pretty basic to you, but women are in their heads a lot of the time, and by penetrating her thoughts, and being thoughtful, you can really begin to have an effect. Aside from the physical contact we have with people, our most important connection with others is an emotional and an intellectual one.
We can achieve this through sharing some witty jokes or talking about topics that you’re passionate about. It shows you have depth and a mind to go along with your body. Dirty jokes do work, too, in some capacity! Don’t get me wrong, I love a good crude joke! But being too jokey can take away from the emotional connection we are trying to create with someone.
We connect with the mind, so start there. Humor and compassion fall under this category and are sure-fire ways to start building that connection that leads to attraction and then tension. You basically want to show your best side, and this is one of the first steps to building that tension, but first you have to build that connection.
Onto our second way to create sexual tension. Absence makes the heart grow fonder. And texting can enhance that tension with a few flirty texts, and leaving off with an “I can’t wait to see you ;)” (cheeky emoji). Having a strong text game is key to creating sexual tension with your woman of interest. Texting allows you to blush and squawk and squeal like no one is watching, and it allows you to have whatever reaction you naturally feel.
The text is a very specific one to learn—if you do not already practice savvy texting. Complimenting someone over text message is a good place to begin, and when you sign off, leave her a little, “I’m excited to see you!” These few things go a long way in the relationship build up. After all, it’s all about textual satisfaction!
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The third way to create tension is through flirting. Flirting requires some degree of comfort with your sexuality. Because if you are not, then your flirting may come off as strange and awkward. Guilt surrounding sex is one of the most detrimental things that has happened to our culture. Men and women are sexual beings and flirting is fun, so let go of whatever guilt you have pent up from your Sunday School days and explore.
Tension is the feeling of being pulled towards someone, but also experiencing resistance. It occurs when you and your girl interact and have a sexual desire to be with each other, but it is postponed or delayed or has yet to happen.