Why is it that some guys seem to exude zero effort and always get the girl, while others seem to continually struggle, and never get what they pursue? Much of it depends on mindset. When you have a desire “to get the girl” without a plan, your mind lacks direction and your chances of success become much bleaker. When you harness a more focused mindset, and create a plan of action to achieve results, you shift your thinking into creating action rather than just praying for random success. In seduction, confidence is a must.